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“Going on a Bender” means something different to everyone. It could be eating ice cream every night for one week, it could mean 2 margaritas a night instead of 2 a week or it could mean going on a date every single night of the same week. For me, my bender has been the last year and a half of traveling, kissing a few more frogs (or studs…), and adding a few more ice creams and beers to my life…

What I am trying to say here is that a little excess can be a good thing sometimes.

Why? Because it’s freaken exhausting to stick in the limits that society (or your metabolism) say are the right way. One week of eating a little too much ice cream is not going to kill you, nor is kissing 7 boys in one week, (and hey, they said you need to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince/princess!). So, fuck anyone that says it’s slutty, and fuck anyone that judges you for not sticking to your perfectly proportioned plate of tofu, kale and brown rice. How good does saying “FUCK IT” feel sometimes!

I actually think we should call the “bender” the “fuck it reset button”.   Anytime I’ve pressed that button in the past, I’ve felt guilty. How messed up is that?! When I quit my job in LA 1.5 years ago and left the USA to travel and move to Bali, I completely let go of my diet, “perfect body” (that I hated at the time?!), and food rule obsessions. I drank a little bit more than I used to, and I gained a few extra pounds. But I was free. Damnit I was free (and I still am). I felt better than I had felt in 10 years. I pressed the “fuck it reset button” for a year and a half because it was the only thing that I COULD do to heal from 10 (30?) + years of living an obsessed, restricted, society says this is what I should do lifestyle.

A year and a half later, I am the freest and happiest I have ever been (and I have never felt more confident and beautiful even with the extra 10-15 pounds on me!). Looks like my “bender” (AKA letting the loose on the reigns of routine and following the rules everyone else was) healed me out of the bored, depressed rut that I was stuck in.

 So what’s the moral of my story here? Don’t feel guilty when you’re pressing your own “fuck it reset button” whether you need to do it for a week or a year to heal. Do what you have to do and fuck what society says (as long as you aren’t hurting yourself or others in the process of course).   And keep a few grounding/balancing crystals by your side along the way…

Here are some of our favorite grounding and balancing crystals (for life and for benders):

Red Jasper: Balancing and grounding AF. Supports your base/root chakra.

Clear Quartz: The Master Healer

Moonstone: Balances masculine and feminine energy.

Amethyst:  Keeps your anxiety and stress at bay.  It's also the best crystal for a hangover.

Comments on this post (2)

  • Jun 09, 2018

    This speaks to me in this exact moment in my life. Perfection!

    Power to the “fuck it reset button”

    — Paula

  • Jun 09, 2018

    I honestly don’t think I could love this blog any more!! You are SO fucking spot on with all of this! Also, I love your tone – you’re real, raw, on point, throwing all polished fucks to the wind and in the process, shining brighter and more beautiful because of it! FUCK YEAH! So glad I discovered you on IG – keeping writing, please!! xOx!

    — Jillian Kristina

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